Important among the general guidelines of any military organization (or local police organization) is the requirement that its employees conduct themselves with dignity, honor and good conduct. It's probably phrased something like, "An officer shall not conduct himself in a manner that is unbecoming to himself or to the Department."
So, how are "matters of the heart" handled by a Department, such as when one officer becomes romantically involved with a married woman - and that woman happens to be married to another officer in the department?
Should the Department look the other way and adopt the attitude that "so long as it doesn't happen on company time, we're not going to get involved"? Or should the attention of command personnel of the department be attracted by this conduct?
Further, what happens within a department when the above conduct does not involve two officers but, more importantly, involves two supervisory officers of the department? That is, one supervisory officer and the wife of a second supervisory officer in the same department.
Such a sticky situation is quite likely to affect the morale of many officers in the department. All will know about it. Will they talk about it? You bet.
In such a situation, the top cop in the department (let's call him the Chief) should be obligated to take immediate action to halt such "conduct unbecoming an officer" and recognize the harm it causes within a department. One solution might be to direct the offending officer to cease such romantic involvement; another might be to "suggest" that the offending supervisory officer resign "for personal reasons" (before he gets fired). There are, of course, other ways of handling the problem.
For the good of the department, no delay whatsoever should occur between the time the Chief learns of the problem and he takes definite action to maintain the morale within his department.